“Now King Solomon loved many foreign women.” (1 Kings 11:1).
Oops. Solomon made a mistake. First, he married many wives. Let’s talk about wives for a moment. Way back in Genesis 2:24, God said, “For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.” Look at those words, “one flesh,” for a moment, if you will. What do they mean?
First, let us consider the fact that these words are in the Bible, and written as an authoritative type of statement (not allegorical, or symbolic, but literally authoritative) — they “shall” become one flesh. It is the “shall” that should make us “pep up” and take notice. The “shall” is important. In other words, if you have joined yourself to another person, you HAVE become “one flesh” with that person. It is a fact. Some people worry about that. They should. There can be a lot of “spiritual transactions” that occur as a result of joining yourself to another person.
The greatest problem of all — let me say it — is that fact that by joining yourself to another person (in a wrong type of way), your heart can and will get “led astray” by that person’s philosophies. Let me back up a little bit. Ask yourself the following question. Why, in the first place, did you “join yourself together” with that other person? See what I am getting at? The real reason you “decided on it” in the first place had to do with the fact that your heart was not right. “Spiritual transactions” do occur when we “join ourselves together” in the wrong way with others. But let me say, the “preparation” for those spiritual transactions to occur in the first place have a lot to do with why you decided to get involved in the first place.
Don’t worry so much about the spiritual transactions (whether or not you were indwelt by evil spirits, for example). The REAL problem has to do with the fact that your heart was not right. Get your heart right, and the enemy will flee (with a little word or two of encouragement, as you “expel” that enemy from your midst). But the REAL issue is your heart. Try as you may, you will NOT get free if your heart is not perfectly right with God.
You’ve got to get that “idolatry” out of your heart. You’ve got to stop seeking the approval of other men and women, just so that you will someday (you imagine) “feel better” about yourself. Do you know what I am getting at? That day will never happen. The only One who can TRULY make you “feel better” (in an eternal, wonderful, way), is the Lord Jesus Christ. What did He do? He died on the cross for you. All your life you have been “searching” for that one thing that would “make you feel better,” but you never yet found it. The answer is in Christ. He is your answer, He is your help. Turn to Him.
Solomon became “one flesh” with many foreign women — it would have been bad, too, if he had become “one flesh” even with Israelite women, but the “foreign women” (who did not even believe in his God) led his heart away “all that much more.” The problem, again, had to do with why Solomon decided to “get involved” in the first place. That first step was the problem. The “result” of it all was just the natural type of result that anyone could expect from getting involved with so many women (one committed and truly loving relationship, my friend, is enough, don’t you think?).
The problem with Solomon was not that he was seduced by evil spirits, and so was “led astray.” The Bible says that the REAL problem was that “Solomon held fast to these in love” (1 Kings 11:2) and that “his wives turned his heart away. For it came about when Solomon was old, his wives turned his heart away after other gods; and his heart was not wholly devoted to the Lord his God, as the heart of David his father had been.” (1 Kings 11:3-4). It gets even worse. “For Solomon went after Ashtoreth the goddess of the Sidonians and after Milcom the detestable idol of the Ammonites. And Solomon did what was evil in the sight of the Lord, and did not follow the Lord fully, as David his father had done.” (1 Kings 11:5-6).
Solomon, then, made a conscious choice to seek the approval of men rather than trusting in the Lord God, who alone could save him and deliver him from all his problems, worries, and fears. Don’t make the same mistake. If you have, repent, by saying, “Dear Lord, I am sorry that I have gotten involved in this way. Help me to cling to You alone and depend on You alone for my source of strength.” He will, and He will cleanse you, too. But don’t be surprised, that you may also have a struggle on your hands, as you battle the “prince of the power of the air,” who desires to keep you enslaved to such a bondage. After all, when you got involved in that relationship, you “opened a forbidden gate,” as it were. You opened the WRONG GATE and provided a “foothold” for the devil to “latch onto” in your life. So, then, now that you know that these things were not right, stand up and fight, and regain the ground that you lost!
“For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places. Therefore, take up the full armor of God, that you may be able to resist in the evil day, and having done everything, to stand firm.” (Ephesians 6:12-13). You can do it, with the Lord’s help.