“The tongue of the righteous is choice silver, but the heart of the wicked is of little value.” (Proverbs 10:20)
Sometimes we say things about others, even in their presence, which God Himself says is not true about them. Sometimes people say things about us which God Himself does not say about us. We need to say things about others, and to others, which God Himself, in His Word, says is true. And we need to believe things about ourselves which God, in His Word, says is true.
For example, some people might be inclined to say, “I am stupid,” or, “I can never do anything right.” Where did they get this type of erroneous and negative thinking from? (Probably their parents or someone they looked up to, unfortunately.) However, this type of thinking is not the truth, and nor does it help at all. Rather, it only serves to hinder a person from moving forward to achieve the “prize” that Jesus Christ has laid up in store for them.
To say what is true about others is to affirm the truth about them. And there is power in the truth. We can help people and love people simply by affirming the truth in their presence. “I just want you to know, honey, you are loved. I want you to know that I value you, not because you are a great cook (which you are), but just because you are loved. You don’t need to do anything to earn your favor with me. I love you just the way you are.”
When we say about others that which is true, and when we believe in ourselves that which is true, we experience what I will simply call (for lack of better words), the “power of positive affirmation.” Then, we can build people up, according to God’s word (Ephesians 4:29). And then, we ourselves can be built up. Yes, it works two ways. As we build people up according to the truth which can be found in God’s word, we ourselves will likely find ourselves being built up by others. The Bible has a lot to say about our need to encourage one another.
We need to affirm ourselves, and others, in that which is true – that which is found in God’s word. In fact, Jesus put a premium on the truth when He said, “I am the truth.” (See John 14:6. Also see John 17:17 and John 8:31-32).
What does God say about us?
o God says that we are loved and accepted. We are valuable and precious in His sight. We have dignity and self-worth. None of us is despised. None of us is rejected. We have a Father who is called God! (Romans 8:1, 15-16, 1 John 3:1, 1 Peter 2:4-5).
o God says that we all have something to share. None of us is without a gift which has purpose and value, which can be used to help others, and serve others, in a loving, helpful, and gracious, way. (Ephesians 4:7-8, Romans 6:23b).
o God says that, in Jesus Christ, we are new creations. Therefore, we are not part of the old system of corruption. We forever belong to God … none of us can be separated from the love which is found in Christ Jesus. (2 Corinthians 5:17; Ephesians 4:21-24; Romans 8:39).
A Friendly Challenge
Why not affirm someone today, and remind them of how valuable they are to God? If you are ministering to a non-Christian, why not share with them the message of God’s love, and the fact that they, too, are valuable and of great worth to God – not because of anything they could ever do, but because of God’s sacrificial gift in sending Jesus to die for them in their place? Affirm someone today!